Born This Way

I was born in 1973, which means that my earliest memories consist of rolling backwards as the shopping cart slips through an Albertsons produce section… to a soundtrack of ABBA songs.  This combination of disequilibrium, miniature spray hoses, and disco is probably the reason I find Lady Gaga so compelling.

The essence of Lady Gaga is a blending of the Arts, Letters, AND Sciences in a way that not even Dr. Emmett Brown could have created had he loaded Adam Lambert into his DeLorean and sent him back to the year “Studio 54.”

It’s A Kind Of Magic, and it’s a lot of fun.

On February 11th she released the single “Born This Way”, a club pumped romper that feels like the love child of ‘02 Xtina and ‘89 Madonna.   For weeks we are going to be asking whether it’s more fun to dance to this song or watch people dance to this song.   “Born This Way” the album is scheduled for release on May 23, 2011.

This means that any leader who loves Music and Jesus has roughly 3 months to prep themselves for the inevitable avalanche of questions that have already begun rolling down the mountain, because Lady Gaga is an incredible artist and an amateur theologian:

“It doesn’t matter if you love him, or capital H-I-M, Just put your paws up, ‘Cause you were born this way, baby… ‘Cause God makes no mistakes… Don’t be a drag, just be a queen… A different lover is not a sin, Believe capital H-I-M.”

If you’ve been sentient for any period of time since The Birdcage was released you’ve at least witnessed a Nature vs. Nurture argument.  The question of whether or not people are born homosexual seems to have become the primary battleground in the war over whether or not “Gay=Sin.”

Having friends I respect on both sides of the debate,  I know the argument fails on both sides of the equation.  For the “pros”, gay is a choice, not an orientation. Since all choose to sin, then as defined in Romans gay=chosen sin. “Christians” oppose research into finding “gay genes” or “gay animals”,  because evidently a lesbian seagull trumps their Scripture.

The “wickedness by choice” crowd fears that proof of innate sexual orientation validates the argument of the “gay creation” crowd, giving them license for sinful indulgence.  In reality, sinful indulgence isn’t a gay issue; it’s a human issue.  The pro crowd is working to stop something in “the gays” that they can’t stop in themselves.

For the “cons”, gay is an instinctive orientation.  God created them gay, it’s cruel to demand otherwise.  Asking someone to be “someone they are not” is the ultimate betrayal.

The “naughty by nature” crowd rightly believes God is dishonored by dishonesty, but then extrapolates that pursuing our desires to the fullest is the sign that they’re fully alive.  The heartbreaking twist is that innate desires are the cause of most human suffering.  Instinctive humans aren’t fully alive; we’re self-serving.  We’re the living dead.

Each argument forms a personal mantra that becomes the rhetorical weaponry of the deluded.  Both sides fail in communicating with the other because each believes that you win an argument by proving your point.

I’m pretty sure both arguments fundamentally miss the point of worshipping God.

Humanity will either worship God or itself.  This is the divide the serpent brought to the Garden; follow your desires and you will become like God… and he’ll become unnecessary.  The Pros don’t need God, because they have arguments.  The Cons don’t need God, because they have nature.

God’s response to Satan’s deceit was to let us have what we wanted while letting us live with the ensuing results.  The chief of these results is that all humanity is now enslaved to sin.  The Pros get to be slaves to their arguments while the Cons get to be slaves to their desires.

True Believers though… they get Jesus.

Jesus is the answer to our arguments AND our desires.  The failure of a Nature / Nurture argument is that it assumes that God is expecting something different of homosexuals than heterosexuals (“straight bias” in effect.)

The first step in following Christ has always been repentance.  God isn’t asking homosexuals to repent of their sexuality, he’s demanding that EVERYONE repent of our fallen humanity, of which our sexual orientation is just a part.

When God called me to follow Jesus, he called me to repent of my fallen humanity.  This included, but was not limited to, the desire for a promiscuous heterosexuality, predilection for lying, and an innate instinct for manipulation.

Regardless of what we were born desiring, He calls each of us to “deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow” Jesus.  The hard truth of the Gospel is that freedom doesn’t mean indulgence for anyone, it means sacrifice for everyone.

Until we grasp this we won’t understand the heartbreak of the homosexual community, and we’ll tolerate the arrogance of the “righteous”.  God doesn’t make mistakes, but humanity did and does.  LIFE isn’t an issue of orientation; it’s an issue of repentance.  LadyG and I are both cons, but it seems only one of us understands the ramifications.  Because of this I don’t argue issues, I give an answer for the hope I’ve found.

..and I’m grateful for friendships and soundtracks, regardless of orientation.

7 Responses to “Born This Way”

  1. Sharon O February 21, 2011 at 11:19 am #

    Wonderful thoughts on all sides. I really like the way you present life as it is… good job. (hey we were married in 73 ~ 37 years ago)
    Oh those 70’s … my oh my…
    take care and have a great week.

  2. Jesse February 21, 2011 at 11:49 am #

    I love the way you sum this up. I fear that too many Christians focus on the wrong things. Where we are supposed to be open and loving and focus on growing our relationship with God, we far too often focus on pointing out other people’s sins. How much greater could we be as Christians if we focused on loving and accepting people rather than telling them that they are just sinners (which you point out we all inherently are).

    I have been really trying to look at what Jesus did and said in the new testament rather than just accepting what most churches put forth.

    I really like that you bring the focus back to loving God and drawing nearer to him.

    • Jon February 21, 2011 at 11:58 am #

      So true Jesse… I think a lot of believers spend their lives living like they just have to “be better than somebody else”, which causes them to look for easy targets to set their sights on (they falsely believe gay people are “worse” than them) instead of setting their target (hearts and minds) on Christ. Love your thoughts, thanks for sharing.

  3. Cody February 21, 2011 at 11:56 am #

    …So are you saying that ‘sin is sin’ regardless of ‘type’ or ‘intent’? I suppose if that were the case we would have to stop politicking, theorizing and demonstrating.

    Great post, Jon. The point is always Christ and Him crucified.

    The discussion inspires a tough question that needs to be asked:

    “Do I love people enough that I even care to gently and respectfully share my Christian faith?”

    • Jon February 21, 2011 at 12:01 pm #

      That is a bear of a question bro… It’s so much easier to passive aggressively “hate” our brother than actively love him. Great point, thanks for chiming in.

  4. Mollie McAmis July 14, 2011 at 12:38 am #

    Take as second to compare the ultimate differences between Lady Gaga’s official video of “The Edge of Glory” and “Roxanne” by the Police
    I will give you a few hints…
    1>”Queen Lady Gaga” loves her self… apparently some other women.
    Can’t come to terms with what? Was she really just born this way? OR is easier to make believe..
    So put away the Make Up
    no dont just break up and then make up… Take off you your mask and Shut the Front door.
    Then tell your mom who goes to college to turn off the Red Light.
    2.>The Police were making a statement of how modesty is truly hottesty.There is glory and beauty in an infinite and never ending mystery!


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