I was warned this week that men were going to try to hold my hand.
I’m in Africa right now and one of the trip leaders told me to expect that grown men might try to take me by hand as we were walking together. They also told me not to worry about it because it’s a perfectly normal thing for an African man to do with his friend.
This didn’t make me any less anxious, mostly because I’m not an African man.
It made me think about what I would do if an African man took me by the hand while we are walking…
Would I instinctively flinch?
I don’t want to be offensive.
Would I just act naturally?
How do you act naturally?
I’ve never held hands, as a grown man, with another grown man before.
What’s the protocol?
Do I swing my arms?
How hard should I grip?
Who’s thumb goes on top?
Will we interlock our fingers?
What do I do when our hands get sweaty?
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN IT’S TIME TO LET GO?