The Direction We Push

This child isn’t an actor, she’s a mimic.  What she’s saying isn’t funny, it’s heartbreaking.

As a pastor I’ve learned that if you don’t give people permission to be wrong, they’ll very rarely find their way to being right.  That’s why I’m OK with people choosing the life they want to live, even if that direction is biblically wrong.  It’s usually in our biggest trainwrecks that God shows up clearest.

What becomes difficult is watching someone clearly headed the wrong way down a one way, begin leading someone else that direction… which causes me to wonder about the tragedy that befell whatever woman that this little girl is parroting.

I’m sure that this was intended to be cute, and it was probably performed many times for friends before it was recorded and sent to the networks, but in reality this child is giving voice to the inner anguish of someone who has no one left to rely on but herself.

Sadly, this is the place of brokeness that humanity finds itself when it decides that self-reliance is the only reliance.  My question for you isn’t, “What is wrong with the world?” or “Isn’t this girl’s mom terrible?” or “How can we get these people to church?”, it’s simply, “What direction are you pushing the people you influence?”

We’ve been given a choice as to how we’ll live, and the people we love are watching us do it.


5 Responses to “The Direction We Push”

  1. Sharon O February 24, 2011 at 7:22 pm #

    This is so incredibly sad. It is like the ‘horrible’ show called toddlers and tiara’s. That should be banned and the parents should be up for child abuse. It is evil.
    Our children need to be children, innocent and sweet and not subjected to ‘our’ garbage.
    It angers me. As a child advocate and a survivor of ‘childhood’ trauma we should never put a child in such a role… Ever.
    Thank you for bringing this to others attention.

  2. Jessica Chez February 24, 2011 at 10:53 pm #

    So true Jon! Isn’t it so easy to separate ourselves from any sort of responsibility by judging or critiquing others, like the mother of this impressionable little one?

    I think you also bring up a valuable point that the mother of this little girl probably intended this to be cute, fun, and innocent. How often do my own good intentions hurt and effect others around me?

  3. Jon February 25, 2011 at 8:20 am #

    So true, I can’t imagine how hard the mother’s previous relationships must have been to have led her to this type of thinking. I’m pretty sure this is why we need tender people working with kids. Thanks for sharing.

  4. Tim Clark February 25, 2011 at 1:37 pm #

    We bucked this type of thinking when we married at the adolescent age of 24! Oh, did I mention too that we both did not have jobs and were in the process of moving to the big city just after we tied-the-knot?

    My new wife’s parents were staunch believer’s in knowing the “real world” before marriage. You could hear essentially the same words this little girl is saying coming from my in-laws-to-be; not quite as brash, of course, but just as adamant.

    Well we’ve been on our nuptial adventure for for 22 years now. I’m glad I broke the imposed rule and married my wife. I could never find someone exactly like her. I knew that at the time!

    My point is not to say that there are truisms in life. They can be used as a guide and should be considered. However there are other factors to making decisions. Sometimes you can follow all the rules and still be wrong. Sometimes you can break the rules and be right. It seems to me a little humility and trust can go a long way.

  5. Jon February 26, 2011 at 11:50 pm #

    So true Tim, love your perspective. Congratulations on 24!

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